if you don’t think this carries an important message about our society then you are what is wrong with human society today
And this is why when you see a post empowering and uplifting black women, do not invade it with “don’t you mean all women.” No, because this is not the reality of “all women.”
Anonymous askedThose Ryden tweets are ridiculous. I saw a rape survivor say she didn't want to be involved in current Feminism. Tumblr Feminists sent all her personal information to her rapist so he could find her and 'teach her a lesson' for not wanting to be a feminist. Why the hell would we want to be part of a group that says 'agree with us or we'll try and have you raped'? Who cares what we call ourselves as long as we fight for equality. What you call yourself shouldn't be more important than the cause.
Actually, it does matter. You’re right — it shouldn’t be more important than the cause — but the term “feminist” is a huge part of that cause and it is very, very important.
Contrary to what those disgusting women might have said, a person who uses sexual assault as a tool for punishment for any reason is not a feminist. If feminism was Islam, those women would be Al Qaeda. Just because they say they’re feminists does not mean they uphold the beliefs laid out by the cause. There is absolutely no excuse for that.
As for the word “feminist” itself, it absolutely matters that we use this term. Feminism, while it does clearly define the belief as the cause for gender equality in society, it specifically acknowledges the fact that women are the ones being oppressed. Any oppression of men by the patriarchy — e.g. the belief that men cannot be victims of sexual assault, or the idolization of masculinity to the point where men feel they are unable to show any kind of emotional weakness — occurs as a direct result of society’s demonization of femininity.
I hear people all the time saying “Well, why can’t we just be equalists? Why do we have to support feminism?” because they think feminism means we want women to be the ruling class. First of all, we would never want that because we know what it’s like to be under the thumb of the ruling class. We’re not going to do that to anyone else. Feminism is the cause for gender equality specifically focusing on fighting against the demonization of femininity.
Those Ryden tweets are not ridiculous, because she’s 100% right. Feminism is what got us the right to vote. Feminism is what finally allowed us into the workforce and it’s still fighting for us to reach the same level as working men. Feminism is what forced society to start to see us as fully capable human beings — though we still have a long way to go.
Saying “well, I’m not a feminist but I do believe in gender equality” is just like saying “well, I don’t see color but I do believe in racial equality.” It intentionally ignores the fact that women are struggling more than men. It’s a way for someone to come across as supportive while avoiding the actual issue. Calling yourself an equalist where feminism is really the appropriate term is a microaggression because it’s a subtle method of refusing to make anyone uncomfortable. Feminism needs to be called feminism because it makes people uncomfortable.
You are 12. You’re at the library looking for some generic young adult fiction novel about a girl who falls for her best friend. Your dad makes a disgusted face. “This is about lesbians,” he says. The word falls out of his mouth as though it pains him. You check out a different book and cry when you get home, but you aren’t sure why. You learn that this is not a story about you, and if it is, you are disgusting.
You are 15. Your relatives are fawning over your cousin’s new boyfriend. “When will you have a boyfriend?” they ask. You shrug. “Maybe she’s one of those lesbians,” your grandpa says. You don’t say anything. You learn that to find love and acceptance from your family, you need a boyfriend who thinks you are worthy of love and acceptance.
You are 18. Your first boyfriend demands to know why you never want to have sex with him. He tells you that sex is normal and healthy. You learn that something is wrong with you.
You are 13. You’re at a pool party with a relative’s friend’s daughter. “There’s this lesbian in my gym class. It’s so gross,” she says. “Ugh, that’s disgusting,” another girl adds. They ask you, “do you have any lesbians at your school?” You tell them no and they say you are lucky. You learn to stay away from other girls.
You are 20. You have coffee with a girl and you can’t stop thinking about her for days afterwards. You learn the difference between a new friendship and new feelings for a person.
You are 13. Your mom is watching a movie. You see two girls kiss on screen. You feel butterflies and this sense that you identify with the girls on the screen. Your mom gets up and covers the screen. You learn that if you are like those girls, no one wants to see it.
You are 20. You and your friends are drunk and your ex-boyfriend dares you to make out with your friend. You both agree. You touch her face. It feels soft and warm. Her lips are small and her hands feel soft on your back. You learn the difference between being attracted to someone and recognizing that someone you care about is attractive.
You are 16. You find lesbian porn online. Their eyes look dead and their bodies are positioned in a way that you had never imagined. You learn that liking girls is acceptable if straight men can decide the terms.
You are 20. You are lying next to a beautiful girl and talking about everything. You tell her things that you don’t usually tell anyone. You learn how it feels not to want to go to sleep because you don’t want to miss out on any time with someone.
You are 18. You are in intro to women’s and gender studies. “Not all feminists are lesbians- I love my husband! Most of the feminists on our leadership team are straight! It’s just a stereotype,” the professor exclaims. You learn that lesbianism is something to separate yourself from.
You are 15. Your parents are talking about a celebrity. Your dad has a grin on his face and says, “her girlfriend says that she’s having the best sex of her life with her!” You learn that being a lesbian is about the kind of sex you have and not how you love.
You are 21 and you are kissing a beautiful girl and she’s your girlfriend and you understand why people write songs and make movies and stupid facebook statuses about this and time around you just seems to stop and you could spend forever like this and you learn that there is nothing wrong with you and you are falling in love.
You are 21. And you are okay.
#109 Koffing, the Poison Gas Pokémon.
Now available and READY TO SHIP!
I gave this chubby guy two gas craters to look like his hands. :}
Omg this is adorable ✨
"What are you going to be for Halloween?"
Pahahah you ask as if I haven’t been planning since last Halloween